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LXXXII-9 When Did They Grow Old?

Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:56 pm
by hawkseye
When Did They Grow Old?

From a distance of many miles
age rides along, a mere number
incremented year after year
sometimes noticed,
often not, until one day
a letter arrives.

“Your aunt is dying,”

wove my most recent
electronically received
announcement.

My aunt, whom I’ve not seen
in more than twenty years,
maintains a vibrant image
in my memory,
a lie I cannot deny,
knowing my seven cousins
married, birthed children
who married and bore children,
thus, my aunt must be older,
more fragile, eroded
by life’s ceaseless pummeling.

“congestive heart failure, lung
cancer, dementia, failing health”

Ah, yes, seems I’d heard news
over the years, bits and snatches
when my uncle died, when my mom
suffered her stroke, when Mom died,
but health details remained detached
from my last visual memory
leaving me to creatively imagine
white hair, frail body, lack of cognitive
connections to family around her,

not unlike so many other dated images
held in my mind of relatives and old peers
whose lives continued along, age numbers
rising year after year, not really connected
to their true physical status until
a new announcement arrives in the mail.

Re: LXXXII-9 When Did They Grow Old?

Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 7:42 pm
by WayneS
It's hard enough watching our children and grandchildrn age and wondering how that happened, but watching relatives older than us grow old and die reminds us that we're next in succession, and that's difficult.

My aunt, whom I’ve not seen
in more than twenty years,
maintains a vibrant image
in my memory,

Old onto the image in your head. That's probably how she'd like to be remembered.

Wayne

Re: LXXXII-9 When Did They Grow Old?

Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 9:30 am
by allenitz
not unlike so many other dated images
held in my mind of relatives and old peers
whose lives continued along, age numbers
rising year after year, not really connected
to their true physical status until
a new announcement arrives in the mail.


except for my younger brother, none of the relatives i grew up with are still alive. now it's down to colleagues i worked with for years, seems like there are weekly death notices, including now, about two weeks ago the notice for the one we had counted on to send out the notices

and then there's me. seems i add a couple of years for every notice.

allen

Re: LXXXII-9 When Did They Grow Old?

Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:04 am
by Bill_Back
It seems we all age and are shocked to note others do also.

Kirk Douglas, I heard this morning, is still alive and is 101 today. No word on his health condition.

I have relatives who moved away and I never hear from. My mother would have kept writing, found where they were and how they were doing. But I never did, and don't. Wrong in some ways, but I have a full life without hours in a day with nothing to do except write letters.

Bill